The guy I’m dating isn’t someone I ever pictured myself with. I pictured a tall, dark, and handsome guy and he’s not that. But he IS really wonderful, treats me well, and I could see this lasting. How can I know that he’s perfect for me, will take care of me, challenge my faith, and genuinely care for me and all my problems, but still feel like he’s not what I pictured?
Why do I keep second-guessing myself? I genuinely care for him and really see this as God making it happen, so why is my head so messed?
Kylie (22, Alberta)
I don’t think it’s weird to have thoughts like this. Not at all. We all think about our “dream partner.” You think of all the things that he needs to have to be well suited to you, and you dream up your meet-cute and assume some timelines in your head. You have an idea of how it will go. It’s just what we dreamers do.