I have a friend who has had the potential to be more than a friend for the past few years. During the beginning of our friendship we would be texting each other madly trying to talk as much as possible. In October he told me his family was leaving our church. On that night, he told me it wasn’t his job to pursue my heart and didn’t know if it would ever be. I knew then that our friendship, if continued, couldn’t be based on technology.
We have continued to hang out about once or twice a month with mutual friends since the time of the switch, and I find myself thinking of him daily and praying for him often. Recently, he asked me (in person) if I noticed his attempt to spend more quality time together and I replied yes. Of course I had.
The last time we hung out (at a Third Day concert), he told me he had come to hang out with a friend he doesn’t get to see very often, and no, it wasn’t the friend who invited him. Oh my. I totally melted. The whole reason he came was to see me!
I continually remind myself of two things:
1) At the end of the day he is still my friend.
2) He may have the potential to be my future husband.
So, my question for you is, how do I know if he thinks we may have a future together? How do I allow our friendship to honour God? And how do I honour my friend?
— Kathryn (17, Arkansas)